Rejection, a Confession.

Life is full of trials and ordeals. The ebb and flow of time keep us going but when someone rejects us, it wounds us deeply and stops our progress. Many of us are more susceptible to this trauma, making us more vulnerable, taking a very long while to recover, and sometimes the abrasion is lasting. 

      Unfortunately, we all experience rejection ache at some point in life. Our emotional control makes it tolerable but a few of us couldn't succumb to the lash of rejection. Consequently, it shatters not only our health but also our mind. Because we are not immune to rejection. Our mind does not accept the bitter reality. The outcome of repudiation is frustration, depression, aggression, and seclusion.

There are many rejections we come across, rejection from love, job, family, and suitors. For being very sensitive some people take it to heart and it interferes with their day-to-day life. 

How does this seed grow?

From childhood, the process commences when we reject our children's ideas and desires by enforcing our choice. Parents practice implementing their preference for selecting subjects then careers. Children feel rejected when parents make a comparison either among siblings or with other children. The child feels less confident and rejected. Further, scolding with negative phrases like you can't do it, you are the most incompetent child sowing seeds of rejection.

Rejection of a social attitude: 

When the root of rejection takes more strength, it makes an individual weak and frightened. One after another failure makes him fragile to grow. Our society doesn't care about the sentiments of a person.

 The most rampant rejection is commonly observed as 'a rejection of marriage' which dramatically affects the well-being of the individual. In our culture, A girl has to drive a trolley full of refreshment for the rishtay waley. Then she is continuously rejected, reasoned that for not having a fair complexion, appealing looks, body shaming, and due to her age. The superficial approach of people makes her pessimistic. The brutal behavior of suitors and rishtay waly made her much exposed to the viciousness of society. While drowning in the deep sea of pessimism she questions her existence. It makes the girl think that why someone doesn't want to be with her? Why it happens to her every time? She falls into the abysmal of disappointment and despair and completely loses her confidence.

Rejection from Job:

    Interview after interview, failure after failure, turning down your resume, pushing away to pursue your dreams is also the gruesome expression of rejection. The disappointed individual blew when family and friends took pity on him.  He loses his momentum and enthusiasm. He sees his hard work seems wasted. He discerns nothing beyond his defeat.  Every setback made him more defenseless.

Rejection in Love:

Love rejection occurs to you when there is a mismatch of chemistry. Trust me everyone faces such rejection in this phase of life. Take it the will of God. Do not run after those who don't care about you. This is not that he deserted you as you are capable enough rather you deserve better. This is normal in love to spend sleepless night and distress moments. But accept it with the thought nature has planned something best for you.

What to do in Rejection:

All of us want to be acceptable, cherished by people around us. Nobody likes rejection but the dire need is to peep into the reason and work on it. Admit the reality makes the pain softer. To act sensibly is the demand of time. There is so much competition in every walk of life the one who is capable enough is the winner. Accept this truth. 

Low your expectation : 

The fundamental solution is to low your expectation either you are going for a job or marriage. Have a rational approach and accept reality by giving yourself another chance. Stoop down and look for another alternative. Beginning from minor is always lasting.  Do not monetize your salary gauge the learning and experience you will have. In a relationship, it is advisable to look around who bears social and financial status equal to you.

Strengthen yourself:

Don't let yourself fell due to setbacks. These obstacles pave your way towards your objective. The man of great metal passes through series of rejections and denial. Take every obstacle as a stair to move up. Work on strengthening yourself emotionally. Your life and time are very precious.  Everything is volatile in this world same as the rejection is. 

How to keep yourself on Track:

Life also has some positive things and blessings alike. Start working on your strength. Keep yourself busy in your favorite activities. Learn from the experience of others who treaded to this track. It will relieve you in distress. After every hardship there is ease.

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